“First of all lets put this out there……all men cheat! Its nothing to do with the woman…its just something wrong with us to where we feel we have to find validation from other women. We know that yall love us and for some fucked up reason we think ur opinion is not honest so we look to other women for validation…it’s not right but that’s the psychological reason men cheat! And most real niggas will tell u that. I have that same problem! Many women, after their man steps out, start to pick away at themselves and comparing themselves to the other woman. Whether you look better than her or not…that has nothing to do with why it happened. So women please stop beating yourselves up about that. And although we as men show that we are strong and tough we actually have very weak egos that need constant praise and approval otherwise we go searching elsewhere for that adoration! You wonder why a man can step out all the time but cant stand to imagine his woman even touching another man? That’s our egos. So in closing women…if u have a man and you want to keep him by your side. Praise him make sure he knows that he is precious to you. I know it sounds crazy but sometimes all we really want to hear is how much we mean to you and for some reason it never is expressed! Feel free to agree disagree or just hate on it…but tag someone who might need to hear this as well!”
This was written by a friend of mine on Facebook and it received many comments mostly from women thanking him for his honesty and agreeing that “men ain’t shit”. I did comment pointing out a contradiction in something he wrote above: “for some fucked up reason we think ur opinion is not honest”…”Praise him make sure he knows that he is precious to you” So, why praise him if he thinks we are lying anyways?”
It didn’t make sense to say a man deserves validation but will not take that validation as the truth from someone who cares about him. The one main thing most females seem to agree on is that validation part. Men need that to fill whatever void they have and have often used that as a reason to cheat. To say I relate to what it’s like to be a man would be a big fat lie but I do try to understand. Man is designed to be the head of the house and, for a split second, let’s just assume that was the norm nowadays. For him to be the Head why must the Head require constant encouragement and reassurance from the rib or else he will seek it from another? Should not the Head already know it’s the Head as if it has forgotten? If you are intended to be the Head then I assume you already possess whatever you need to reassure yourself and fill that void without the empty words of some chick whispering in your ear telling you what you want to hear. In the words of Beyonce, now I must compete when you cheat with loose women?! Loose women enable a man to cheat…that will never change. I don’t need a man suffering from self-esteem issues that need some chick to remind him of how appealing he still is.
I do agree with the part about women comparing themselves to other women thinking they drove him away. If they had only done this and that, this wouldn’t be happening. Some men do instigate that mental game but it’s not our fault…it’s the man. Personally, I think it’s a sorry excuse for men but I read this note and left my comment fully understanding the mental state of the person who wrote it as well as his perspective at this point in his life. Then why have I copied and pasted it here if I think it’s pure garbage? Because men of all ages suffer from this same state of immaturity most without age as a legitimate excuse. A K.K. asked me (probably rhetorically), “when do guys mature and grow the fuck up?” I told her when they get tired of playing the field. I was going to say a certain age but age ain’t nothing but a number and is in no way linked to maturity. I was going to say “when they stop playing games” but I know some mature men who aren’t in relationships simply because they don’t have their shit together yet (career, credit score, education, finances) so that wouldn’t apply to them and I can’t hate on them if they can play games with women signed up as pawns. So I left it as “when they get tired of playing the field” because, no matter if you are an old pimp or a studious lil Bill Gates….men need pussy and will walk out into the field every now and then to pick the ripest pussy available to them until they get tired of picking pussy and want one pussy which has connected to his emotional side somehow.
Is that a bad thing? No, I just wish men would be honest about what point they’re at in life, let other women know this upfront instead of being focused on picking her rip pussy, and stop lying about it like we don’t know. We are all at different points in life but women are a little bit more honest about it where as men tend to think they gotta rack in all they can before some imaginery time clock runs out. Common courtesy and respect….didn’t we learn that shit in kindergarten?! Overall, men need constant validation due to their weak egos and that is just the way it is. But, flip the script and his chick cheats….wave good-bye chica because he can’t keep you around since you are now used goods to him and you will forever have the stench of foreign dick on you. Now, the author of this note did admit that not all men cheat though most have cheated at some point in their lives. Interesting. I just know my head hurts trying to understand and decipher this species so I hope I have enough experience and intuition to guide me through the rest of life instead.
